The ideas that we
is well known that to create a structure first thing is to look well at the base, this should be solid, our modern society and ancient have been characterized by ignore in our species: the care of souls, then do exactly the opposite. problems of our society are the exact type of work treatment we inflicted on our fellow creatures
One of the ideas more repanda on the characteristics of human beings is that "we are evil by nature", this idea is hosted very heavily on the collective unconscious, perhaps supported by so many cultural and traditional institutions that strengthen this concept and also looking around or back century after century until the foundations of our civilization (A) , which demonstrates the human ia violenc therefore we as valid this belief of evil in human nature.
the idea that "it is necessary to correct or discipline" beaten, humiliated, on the idea the superiority of the strongest, that adults are "better" or "know more" than the creatures on the idea that parents are "owners" of their children, in the idea to decide the "best" for their children , they must "prepare for success" (B) are justified and abuse consciously or unconsciously to the beings that says "are what most want." Not realizing that all are victims to some extent, repeated the pattern, as it influences our behavior, our own psychological strengths and our philosophies of life, supported by the cultural pressure of the environment where we grow, to other, protected by the unconscious acceptance the bad of human nature and linked to ignorance about the qualities and the biological needs of the creatures.
Child Abuse
Just put the search "child abuse" in network, in several languages \u200b\u200bto realize that violence and mistreatment of the creatures is something abrumadory bleak at the global level. Reference 9 out of 10 children in America are abused physically, October 8 in Europe, in France 67% of men parents are in favor of corporal punishment, apply to other countries is possible that this figure is equal to or greater especially in Latin America by the prevailing machismo). here I dare to make that the emotional and psychological abuse is 100% at the global level, as even those who say "treated well" their children have no idea what the true biological and emotional needs creatures and even knowing and recognizing them, we need the c onstante daily struggle to avoid being crushed by our own psychological defense mechanisms they do repeat the wrong patterns of abuse that we inflict even when we were creatures, for "all" have these mechanisms as we were socialized in this culture repressor of the vital functions of the human being .
The fact hit or mistreat creatures to "correct" only shows that a conflict is resolved by violence and that can hit harder the weakest , well after so much abuse learn to develop their indifference it does not matter what you do know that soon they will fall another beating. Examples of abuse overflow, some have even become part of some cultures supported by traditional philosophies of life (C) .
are many causes of mistreatment of the creatures, but mostly this is given by the
One way very repanda abuse is unconscious psychological, emotional , precisely because of our ignorance of what are the real biological and emotional needs of our creatures , Nils Bergman in the documentary Restoring the Original Paradigm scientifically proven and newborn the "separable from the mother and the level of cortisol in the brain rises very unusual, the mothers come near to this level falls and heart rate, imagine what happens with this These heart rate and cortisol levels when the separation time of the creatures from their mothers is extended eg when they have to be in daycare , while their mothers work, it is necessary to emphasize that the brain is forming small and that these high levels of cortisol such as hippocampal damage memory manager (D) .
The child at birth in a delivery suffers a violent collision at psychosomatic (physical and mental) , happening of the state of tranquility, peace in the womb to an entirely different, then is separated from the mother and suffers separation from his symbiote with high levels of cortisol acting in his little developing brain, then instead of feeling the warm breast feels cold and strange piece of plastic that serves to feed and comfort him, passes time and as if their suffering was not enough, instead of being transported attached to the maternal body, listen to your heartbeat and feel the body that gives warmth and security, is transported in a stroller cold (bad thing for not knowing the benefits of holding the baby ), which only soothes the needs of the adult and the child no , the abuse continues, during the endless hours night or day, should stay away from his mother in a cot or bed cold it away from what most want and need, the mother's body warm, these beats that you can rely on are not, in exchange mother receives a doll for comfort as well as a plastic pacifier must stand and use every means that nature gave him to say he is in danger that something is wrong, their cries, and cries , but it seems not your armor (or uninformed) mother having a comfortable place to sleep alone or with someone, you may get it too but not listen to what their desires dictate which is the stand beside her child . Time passes and the pain continues or worsens, it is now abandoned, is what he feels, in an institution that addresses the need adult: the day care or nursery school (now poorly justified by many arguing that it is to "socialize "as if the man suffered from the innate quality) there is in the care of strangers where other creatures scream and cry also his eyes sad, desperate and bloodshot eyes, s uplicando not abandoned there, they pass these three stages: Protest, despair and indifference , eventually submitted and are put in survival mode, and develop the opposite of trust, l to distrust and indifference , as beings who are supposed to love them are those who leave, only an hour is an eternity for a child away from his mother .
As if that were not enough all these sufferings are added the abuse of food, cleanliness, clutter, and schedules for all-desiquilibrando her biological clock- by punishments, etc.
is a sad reality that society is structured according to the needs of adults and not according to the vital needs of creatures, called the development and growth of women is on par with neglect and abuse of the biological needs of the creatures, as no growth can justify a particular social and technological development and the Needy trampling vital primary basic structure: the symbiotic mother-child .
Many great men and women have worked on this issue of the basic structure of our society, some still do, I will cite a few: Wilhelm Reich, Françoise Dolto, Alice Miller, Casilda Rodrigáñez, Michel Odent, James Prescott, Elliott Barker, Jane Hunt and others no less important, committed to defending the human creature.
Here I highlight the work of this great Canadian psychoanalyst Elliott Barker who published the course " The Art of Parenting "youth-oriented parents, is free on the net, after reading make you feel uncomfortable more than one parent.
I would also highlight the works of Casilda Rodrigáñez, especially
The qualities of the human creature
For Casilda Rodrigáñez
Excerpt from " Sexuality and performance of dominance "
Stettbach Konrad (1) ensures that the human creature to be born just want to love and be loved. The child is born confident, is one of its original qualities: absolute confidence for living dissolved in the environment, floating in the mother and letting habitat pour from every pore. This is the basic desire genuine human primary before losing the innocence and initiate social distortion, the vital desire to live under all the armor, on the whole armor psychosomatic. What we know and what perceive when we leave on the outside and inside, when we crossed the entire personality (ego) that we built and we reached the bottom, to psychosomatic origin of our being, our pulses alive, says Gabriela Mistral.
human creatures in our primary integrity, do not know the strength or containment of our drives . We only know the state of floating in the uterine matrix, the state of relaxation and absolute trust in the environment, a neuromuscular relaxation is correlated to mood of confidence. Stettbach also states that still retain the body wisdom that considers everything looks good and gives us pleasure and comfort, he considers bad and try to avoid everything that causes damage, inconvenience and discomfort. This means that we still have knowledge subsequently banned, and internal transparency largely lose, to know what is good and what is bad. What Kropotkin ( 2) called general route of the organic world : seek pleasure and avoid pain, body guided by our instincts.
The Taboo Sex, by prohibiting the spontaneous expression of our impulses, removes this 'guide', and so are the standards, methods, laws, prepared artificially by the various institutions and authorities which are tactically in our guides.
The question of the innate goodness of human creatures has been the subject of universal controversy, controversy that Freud, not face the social order of our civilization, it leads to far as to say the existence of innate thanatos qualify as human creatures polymorphic perverse. If we are bad, either which is our original sin, repression is justified, but if we are good, then ill be that we repress. Therefore, at the end of every speech, we find this same controversy.
The innate thanatos, karma, original sin,,,, are, in short, speeches blaming the victim, who is the most universal feature of the relations of domination . Our flesh is pulsatile, and therefore evil, and are guilty of being made of this organic matter, so we have to practice the sublime, self-control and education Non-emotional develop our capacity for orgasm.
Women who have given birth to a minimum internal connection with our bodily instincts, we know that the creatures at birth are good, appealing to all the good in us and in us. No speech or argument to this deep certainty. The desire to mother have a wisdom deeply subversive and revolutionary organic, which reveals all the lies and cultural artifacts set for it.
One of the original sins more classical atriuidos the human creature is that we are selfish, we are born selfish, our libido is selfish (narcissistic say), even our genes are selfish, in short, that the ego-ism is our innate quality. And this innate selfishness would follow the innate desire to hoard and to make boots by fratricidal strife. War has always been telling us (lie) is in the nature of man because man is a wolf to man, etc, etc. and therefore the law must contain the evil mediate innate and keep us eat each other.
bioanthropological 's work traces the origins Maximo Sandin This creeencia popular. In his book Thinking evolution life thinking, scientific and historically well documented, explained and from the nineteenth century biology has built biased to set the selfishness and competition as the supreme law of nature (3)
For his part, after ciencuenta years working in the field of psychoanalysis, Balint Michel (4) ensures that human beings are not born selfish, but deeply in love and loving. He says the two primary love is the universal trait of human beings at birth, shattering the Freudian theories of narcissism or primary selfishness. According to this author born with a load of very strong libido, in a state of interdependence libidinal itself a kind of love específcio, symbiotic love. This intense love is also, in addition to the empirical testing of many mothers, a physiological hormonal testing, among many other (5)
symbiotic creature during exterogestación (6) living under maternal desire, holding the state of primary innocence, trust in the environment, relaxed living, do not retain their impulses, and abandons them: and all her small body live in a state of bliss.
The confidence in the environment is necessary for relaxation and to abandon the desire, this trust is maintained while the child does not have a repeated experience of separation from the mother and emotional abandonment. Confidence in the environment is a requirement of being and is an innate quality of human being itself the state of original innocence and integrity.
This is a very important point where they kill the qualities of the human creature, because when he loses confidence in the environment, they begin to contain their impulses, to retract and shrink, producing tension and stiffness, beginning to lose transparency, internal flow and spillage.
Trust presupposes reciprocity . If the desire to love and be loved is the quality of human social relations. One of the things that surprised Colo Bartolomé de las Casas and the customs of the Araucanian people of the Caribbean, was the hospitality lavished on them and reciprocity expected of them indigenous. Here no one gives anything or expecting anything. They gave it everything and expect to receive everything. The outpouring of libido involves trust and reciprocity . This proves that the pre-Columbian Caribbean population was socialized as innate human qualities.
Another thing that surprised them was the innocence and naivete they found in those nations. From their point of view and children's features were a bit silly people. This also happens to good people is considered dumb people because he has not learned to let go of their own innate qualities, and take up arms competition and fratricide. A good people is called 'stupid' because they have 'intelligence' fratricide. Bachofen (7) also stresses the hospitality as one of the basic features of matristic (8) .
Between trust and reciprocity are the outpouring and the gratitude. Derramamaiento produces confidence, shedding received produces a deep and sincere feeling of gratitude and recognition of the love of otr @, which quickly turns into shedding their own, and it works reciprocity. The deep and sincere gratitude is a feeling that emerges viscerally as pleasure, resulting in the actual physical wellbeing while fraternal relationships in social regulation.
reciprocity presupposes confidence because if it stops working reciprocity, trust retracts, began to cut and change the 'chip' (in fact, as we shall see, we change the neurological program that regulates our basic metabolism), that is, let's change the attitude of giving spill and the environment spontaneously, for a given withdrawal or shrinkage, and an attitude of alertness and tension.
This is how you will install the double resistance: resistance to the inside (what you want out) and to the outside (which hurts us.) So we have two ways to live: on the one hand, a way to survive in the withdrawal and the shrinkage of the inborn qualities and, secondly, a way of life of leakage, expansion and harmonious integration in the environment. E Chapter 3 of this book, see the neurological programs that regulate the ways of living or surviving, and psychosomatic change involves changing from one to another, and in particular the formation of the shells.
Notes:
(A) The foundations of civilization is the story they tell us they do not include that part of history matristic , Eden, or the golden age, where there was no violence and the nucleus of society was not the triangle as is familiar today, but the duo the symbiotic mother-child couples .
(B) recommend watching this documentary Olympic dreams, to understand the idea of \u200b\u200bsuccess that our culture produces.
(C) Michel Odent says that the Spartans to have strong children and "warriors" needed tossing the newborn babies, the survivors were good warriors. Another example is heartbreaking to see this predatory practice circumcision, still persists in societies such "civilized." I recommend not see the video circumcision if it is a sensitive person. To this the wise philosophies Reich called killer.
(D) To hear more on how the brain is damaged creatures recommend reading this chapter Brain during The Art of Parenting and see this documentary The baby's brain.
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(1) KONRAD Stettbach. Pourquoi la souffrance?, Aubier, Paris 1991
(2) Peter Kropotkin, Anarchism , his philosophy, his ideal in Brochures revolutionary II, Tusquets, Barcelona 1977.
(3) The construction of the biology in the twentieth century begins with the creation of the myth of Darwin, which is established in the collective imagination as the creator of the theory of evolution that liberated humanity of the biblical explanation of the origin of man and natural diversity. In reality, the evolution took more than half a century discussed by the scientific community when Darwin published his ideas, which are nothing more than the English translation of economic liberalism in the interpretation of the natural world, and still skewing contin''uan the practice of routine biological research. The so-called "Synthetic Theory" neo-Darwinian (generated in the 30 and 40) still remains as the official explanation of the mechanism of evolution of species, although experimental data accumulated in recent decades of research in many fields of biology has been left completely outdated. MAXIMUM
Sandin, Thinking Evolution life thinking, Crimentales editions, Murcia, 2006.
(4) MICHEL BALINT, the basic fault, Polity Press, Barcelona 1993. The 1st publication, London and New York 1979.
(5) Michel Odent, The baby is a mammal , Mandal, Madrid 1990; The Love scientification , p. 12, Ed.Creavida Argentina 1999. Moreover, in 1992 published a book of 500 pages collecting various studies on the hormone oxytocin PEDERCEN CA ET AL ' Oxytocin in maternal, sexual and social Behaviours , Annals of New York Academy of Sciences, 1992, 6527. NEWTON NILES summed it up by saying that oxytocin is the 'love hormone', and since then so it is known.
(6) The concept of external pregnancy refers to the first year after birth than the human species is biologically a gestation period, as the human baby is born before time.
(7) John Jacob Bachofen (1861) Mythology Archaic Mother yDerecho , Anthropos, Barcelona 1988.
(8) The concept of 'matrística'ha been generally accepted since it was proposed by Ernest Borneman ( Le patriarcat , PUF, Paris 1975), to refer to human civilizations pre-patriarchal, cutting through the controversial issue of various translations, as misleading as "matriarcado'o 'realm of mothers." and other interpretacions of Bachofen's Das Mutterrecht . For my part, I think it is paropiado simply call 'maternal societies', a concept close to everyone.
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